It has been a while since I went out with my friends to do something fun... Each and every time we talk to arrange some hangout we say we want it different and fun, but we end up going to some restaurant, cafe or a movie... We change the places, the faces, but still not really fun.. at least not for me... So I was wondering what would be fun?.. for me personally i wanna go to some place with a dancing piste, some music, may be fun sketches, I do not really know.. some place where I can sit comfortably, laugh and everything... But then I hit reality, these places are there but not for us... Most of the places with dancing pistes, has alcohol and do not allow veiled girls.. so obviously no the place that I can go to normally.. Even if the allowed veiled girls, I do not like people drinking around me, I know alcohol is a bad thing to people, I have seen its effect on a dear person and I do not like it... And still this is not fun... And then I wondered why can not we have a normal place, like the usual hangouts but with a dancing piste or some band playing if they want, without any "impure" things... I do not mean impure, I do not know how to put it, I mean for that place to become an ordinary place where a girl or some girls can just go hang out at without any worries, or anything... why do people have to either accept the drinking, unveiled and preferably couple rules in order to have some fun... It might not be the perfect place for people who drink as they want to drink, but at least it will give them the opportunity to have fun with the friends that could not tag along in the other places...
In order to solve that problem for my ownself i thought that may be house party is the solution, for me and those friends who feel the same... But for some strange reason I figured out that even that concept have disappeared from our culture... or atleast from some parts of it, which is the part I am talking about... Its either You have a reason for the party or no party.. though if we go back to the old film, they had house parties, may be yes the upper status and it included drinking, but that cause drinking was a normal thing and again it depends on who is holding it and who is attending if we agree on no drinking then the rule is set.. but again its not totally understood, people do not actually go with this suggestion... its like there has to be something "impure" or something... specially after a certain age and if both genders are there.... my usual answer to that is "whattt?"... I do not understand why, but that is how many people think... this is how most of the neighbors would think.. so since i'm a girl and do not wanna cause my parents any trouble, even if they are cool enough to understand,, the finaly answer to house parties was a big fat NO...
About neighbors and parents.. I was hanging out in a mall on valentine's day with a dear male friend... he had nothing to do and I was going to buy some stuff and he knew where to get them from, so he came with me to show me from where, gentle of him of course.. and much better than spending valentine's day at home... and yup he is just a friend, actualy a bestfriend and a brother.. BROTHER i said... so when I came home, I was telling my mum that I ran into the son of our neighbors at the shop and we greeted each other and he was polite... my mum's reaction was "so he saw u with ".....""... so i was like "yeah"... and the coming verse caused me a complete complete shock "so now he would think that he's ur bf and .......... "... I honestly did not hear the rest of the phrase, due to my mum's facial expression... all i heard was that little voice in my head running everywhere, banging in all my skull's walls and screaming "oh my GOD the virus got into my house, it got my mum, what should I do, what should I dooo?"... it reminded me with that english movie, "the faculty" when even their dear friends where turning into aliens... so i finally calmed the voice and stopped my mum.. stating "1. i ran into a grown up guy... 2. why would they care .. 3. I was buying something from a store in a mall on valentine's day... 5. its not like i ran away from the guy, i greated him normaly, cause it is a normal wituation... 4.I do not care..."... and left with complete shock that my mum, who was not raised in egypt, whose father was an ambasodor and travelled to different places and who has a male bestfriend who I consider un uncle just thought this way.. just cause she is scared about me from some "beliefs".... then after a few minutes i went back to her and asked.. "so what if I had a bf, and was just hanging out somewhere with him holding hands..and that same neighbour saw me.... there's nothing wrong with that, atleast not for me and not for u.. specially that when i have a bf you, my dad and everyone would know.. its not like its wrong i'm 21 years old, never had a bf cause i am not a play girl i try to take right decisions, so when i have one this means he's great"... and even if I was not al that... It simply means I'm in love and there's nothing on earth wrong with being in love and being open about it... normalllll.... its normal to fall in love and its normal to hangout with male friends even if alone, there nothing wrong behind that...
May be its just me... but its like in everything we do we're expected to chose between two extremes... which i can not honestly name... but some are on extreme, just cause they can not find a middle... people would say there is nothing as a middle.. i will always say there are different shades of grey so do not act... I do not know.. I do not think its only me who wants a grey shade and refusing to fall for one of the extremes... I hope that one day i'll get that grey shade and go have a fun hangout with my friends... :)